The intimate relationship you share with your chosen partner is one of the closest you will have in life.
Choosing the partner you want to share your life with and maintaining that relationship through life’s ups and downs is rarely simple. Whether you have the odd disagreement, aggressive arguments or you have simply stopped enjoying yourselves together as life takes over, very few relationships exist completely conflict-free.
When you find one of your most important relationships beginning to falter, it can have an effect on your health, self-esteem, and confidence, and your personal happiness often suffers. Many people try to work through these problems alone, however, it can be incredibly useful to seek some independent help.
At Aspirations Counselling I can provide that independent, impartial help. My couples counselling is a form of talking therapy designed specifically for individuals in a relationship. I do not offer my personal opinion and won’t be telling you whether or not you should separate. My role as your counsellor is to facilitate change and resolution by helping you to communicate more effectively. Through our work together you will reach your own conclusions about your relationship.
The relationship counselling that I offer couples focusses upon improving your communication and helping you to gain the skills necessary to resolve issues within your intimate relationship. I work with couples using both joint and individual sessions.
In regards to the counselling, some of the work you do will take place with me in your sessions, however I will be asking you to continue the therapy at home. Typically this will involve doing a task or discuss something specific. At the following session you will get the chance to explore your ‘homework’, discuss any challenges you came up against, and the resultant emotions and thoughts relating to the task.
Some individuals may feel anxious about discussing intimate relationship matters with a stranger, please bear in mind that I am not here to criticise you. The counselling that I provide is always underpinned with non-judgement, acceptance, and honesty, I hope you will find it a space in which you are able to explore your relationship openly and work together towards your aspirations as a couple.
The overall aim of couples counselling is to help:
- Understand how external factors such as family values, religion, lifestyle and culture affect your relationship.
- Reflect on the past and how it operates in the present.
- Communicate in a more constructive way.
- Learn why arguments escalate.
- Negotiate and resolve conflicts where possible.
There can be many reasons and concerns that might have encouraged you to enter couples counselling. Some common issues that can be explored through couples counselling include:
- lack of trust
- betrayal or affair
- lack of communication
- financial issues
- work-related stress
- abusive behaviour
- different sexual needs or other sexual issues
- family conflicts
- different goals and values
- different parenting styles
- controlling behaviour
- life changes